You try to figure out why you don’t feel satisfied and might even try to name the positive parts of your life. You feel you should be grateful for what you have and might even blame yourself for not being happier. Many times, you may try to put on a happy face and appear like everything is alright when it really isn’t.
And yet, you still can’t figure out what is wrong. How come you feel on the verge of tears a lot of the time? Other women seem happy. They smile and they look so satisfied and you wonder why you can’t experience the same joy. It seems that no one around you sees you for who you truly are, and no one seems to care that you are hurting inside.
You just want to be happy like other women. You want to be happy underneath, deep inside.
Many women feel the same way you do, even though they may not show it on the outside.
Women tend to put on a front around other people so that others do not know they are struggling. They are expected to continue taking care of their children, husband, or significant others even when they are feeling unhappy. They work at their job, come home, cook, clean, and take care of the household chores and don’t seem to receive any reward for it. Other people take advantage of them at times, expecting the women to do everything.
Many women deal with issues such as depression, anxiety, Bi-polar disorder, relationship problems, and many other challenges. Many women may not realize they are struggling with mental health problems and may not seek the help they need. You are not alone in this as statistics support that women experience depression, anxiety, and rapid cycling Bipolar II more often than men.
Women’s counseling can help you reach your potential.
According to the National Alliance on Mental Illness,
“Women experience twice the rate of depression as men, regardless of race or ethnic background. An estimated one in eight women will contend with a major depression in their lifetimes…While the rate of bipolar disorder (manic depression) is similar in men and women, women have higher rates of the depressed phase of manic depression and women are three times more likely to experience rapid-cycling bipolar disorder”.
Although the statistics are high for women that suffer from depression, anxiety, and other mental health concerns, there is help for you.
You can accept support from a compassionate, experienced women’s mental health counselor that can connect with you and help you to feel more fulfilled and satisfied in your life.
We are happy you have come to seek help. We have seen many types of women just like yourself that struggle. We have helped many women deal with relationship problems and divorce as well as depression, anxiety, bi-polar, trauma, and many other challenges.
Our passion for helping women is rooted in a personal belief that women are the ones who make a difference in the world today. You may have heard, “The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world.” We believe that is true.
There are many tools we use to help women. The first tool we use is to listen. We not only listen to what you tell us, we listen with our heart. We try to see what is inside, to help you find the real you, the one you want to find too. As we listen, we help you discover strengths you did not realize you have so you can make them stand out more in your life. You want to be able to use those strengths in your regular life so that you can feel more fulfilled daily instead of just once-in-a while.
Finding your values is important to discover to help you understand more about yourself. For instance, many women value good communication. If we realize communication is a big value of yours and you are struggling to communicate with your significant other, that could help explain why you are feeling unfulfilled. Discovering this important value can help pinpoint ways to increase satisfaction in your life. We can focus on increasing good communication with yourself and others and activities that you pursue can then center around communication which can lead to more fulfillment in your life.
We are experienced in utilizing Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), Mindfulness, Happenstance Career and Learning Theory, and other modalities. These tools we use can help you in your life as we tailor our approach to your unique needs.
For instance, ACT is useful in helping you accept things you cannot change and to help you move towards your values. DBT and mindfulness skills can become useful tools when you are feeling angry, experiencing anxiety or other concerns. For example, a DBT skill (riding the wave) is useful as it helps one visualize anger or anxiety similar to a wave on the ocean. Just like an ocean wave rises higher and higher until it crests, so does our anger or anxiety rise up and crest. An ocean wave then slowly falls back down, just like our anger and anxiety does. We can learn to “ride the wave” by getting in touch with how we are feeling so we don’t explode or vent our frustration on others as we are coming to the crest. Then, we can slowly come back down to a calm state just like an ocean wave does. In career counseling, we find Happenstance learning theory to be useful in helping clients to find what they need to become successful in the work force.
We are here for you, to help you through whatever you wrestle with daily. We care deeply about our clients. We have counseled others for years and have a lifetime of personal experience. We have seen many clients heal and go on to lead successful lives when they have been committed to making the necessary changes. Come sit with us awhile and let’s see what we can do to help you obtain a more satisfying and meaningful life.
You can find satisfaction and fulfillment in your life.
You may still have some questions regarding women’s counseling.
Other people keep telling me I need therapy; can’t I do this on my own?
You may have issues you are dealing with and feel you can get over them yourself and yet that hasn’t been working for you so far. Women tend to put themselves after everyone else and don’t get what they need. Eventually, you are unable to help others because you have nothing left to give. As your therapists, we can help you discover what you need to find fulfillment, to help you reach towards your values. Maybe it’s time for you to get what you need; you’re worth it. We are here to help you work through any issues that you may be going through.
I have a hard time talking about my problems with other people. I’m worried my therapist will judge me.
We won’t judge you. Chances are, we have talked with other women who have struggled with some of the same issues. You are unique though; we take what you tell us seriously. We care about you. We bring an open-minded and non-judgmental approach to each of our sessions so you can feel safe sharing your needs and exploring solutions.
I know I need help but, isn’t therapy expensive?
Therapy is an investment in yourself, your relationship with others, and your future. Are you interested in an investment that will last your whole life? As you go to therapy you will learn the skills necessary to help you as you deal with any hardships that may arise in your life. The changes you make towards a more meaningful life are worth any price you might spend. You don’t need to struggle and find solutions on your own anymore, you can get the help that you deserve.